Isn’t that the truth! We all heal in our own timeframe. There are no set rules that you have X amount of days to hurt/mourn over a death, separation, loss of a friendship or a relationship. It is up to you to determine how long it takes.
I know of a woman who has been mourning the loss of her husband for 4 years. One might think of that as extreme but it is her process and who’s to say it is wrong or right? She has to decide when it is time to stop hurting.
The next time someone condemns you for how much you are hurting just remind them that we all heal in our own timeframe.