Have you said this or have you heard others say this? To me it is the same as Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda!
What if I had done this? Oh, I should have done that? Guess what? You didn’t so to me that means it is time to move on and let it go. If’s and should’s don’t get us anywhere. To me they keep us stuck in the past.
Next time you hear yourself say these two words stop and think about it. Is it moving you forward or keeping you stuck?